Do blokes ever befriend women purely for Friendship.

[DTS]

Last saturday after getting back from the game of the century (Southend vs Oldham) I was expecting a night at home with the Mrs and maybe some good home cooked food.

When I got home it became apparant this would not be the case as she had three of her best friends over. Not an issue always nice to see them and if the Mrs is happy it makes my life easier too.

Of the girls is lovely but a bit of a unit. Really funny shape as she has really really skinny legs and yet a big arse and charlies.

Anyway this girl has been single forever basically and then she met the love of her life on a Jewish dating website. This guy basically ****ed her about for six months and it was a total farce. She having never really had a fella before fell for him totally and he basically used her for some action.

She has not finally moved on and wants to be single. Some guy she works with has started sniffing about a bit. Now he is aparantly "loved up" but they go out for drinks as "friends".

Now for my mind he is on the hunt for some sweet sweet punani. Its so obvious to me as a bloke and one time sex-aholic but my Mrs and her mates think he is just looking fot a friend. They always go out for drinks and he is a proper classy chap as they usually got to Wetherspoons.

Apparantly he is really sweet but not great looking which makes me even more sure he is trying to get in her rather large knickers.

What do you reckon chaps and chappeses. If you think of yourself (Men) only have you ever decided to hang about with a women and really only want to be mates. Personally the only females I have been mates with outside of work are ones I had wanted to smash?

 

[EastStandBlue]

Not too sure... I have girl friends who are good looking that I wouldn't snake because we've been friends for a pretty long time and I don't see them in that way, but I'm also friendly with a few girls that, given half the chance, I definitely would.

While at Uni I also had a bit of a "Friends with Benefits" relationship with a girl I met in my first week at Uni who lived downstairs, but that didn't exactly end well.

It does depend on a few factors, but from the outside it definitely sounds like the bloke in question is trying to pork her.

 

[osymandus]

Entirly possible as Eastand says , but yeah does sound like his after some.

 

[Pubey]

yeah it's possible to have friends who are fit who you wouldn't shag cos it's not really like that. to me though it sounds like he's looking for some action

 

[number11]

Not too sure... I have girl friends who are good looking that I wouldn't snake because we've been friends for a pretty long time and I don't see them in that way, but I'm also friendly with a few girls that, given half the chance, I definitely would.

While at Uni I also had a bit of a "Friends with Benefits" relationship with a girl I met in my first week at Uni who lived downstairs, but that didn't exactly end well.

It does depend on a few factors, but from the outside it definitely sounds like the bloke in question is trying to pork her.

Given she is meeting guys on a Jewish dating site, if that's a deliberate pun, green is on its way!

I think there are occassions where you will be just friends with someone of the opposite sex, but this is rare. From what you have said, he is probably trying to get in there....but if she is aware of this then not really much of a problem either way...

 

[EastStandBlue]

Given she is meeting guys on a Jewish dating site, if that's a deliberate pun, green is on its way!

I wish it was... The best thing I could've come up with would be something along the lines of Spinning Her Draedel.

 

[Slipperduke]

I've been close friends with lots of girls and I can highly recommend it. It's wonderful to have a mate who can give you advice and counselling on the opposite sex, the phone numbers of their fit friends and, of course, unrestrained filthy conversations about all sorts.

That said, I don't think I've had many of those kind of friends that I haven't at least snogged at some point and, more often than not, ended up in bed with. It's just utterly inevitable when drink and genders mix.

Mind you, it sounds like this bloke is just a bit shy and waiting for her to make the first move. Tell her to take the initiative and I reckon he'll be more enthusiastic for her than a Scouser is for a minute's silence.

 

[MrB]

As a few of the guys here know I've just been through a whole period of this. Met a girl at work when I was 17 and she was 16, became really close friends and spent loads of time together over a 6 or 7 year period. We were sounding boards for the problems with each others relationships and as you can expect those partners were always slightly suspicious of us but nothing ever happened. She then met a guy and ended up moving away so we lost touch.

Then, through the 'magic' of Facebook, we got back in contact. We agreed to meet up for a drink. I'd just split up with the wife, she'd just come out of a very stormy relationship. We had a lovely night catching up with old times, then we got drunk, then we snogged, then I ended up back at her flat and the next thing I know I'm auditioning Spurt Reynolds.

Cue 18 months of car crash 'friendship'. Ups, downs, lefts, rights, never knowing where you are or what you're doing and finally ending last week in truly cataclysmic fashion.

So yes, men and women can be close friends. But only if one or both are in a relationship, if both are single there's almost certainly going to be one who feels more than the other and throw booze into the mix and it's a recipe for disaster!

Oh and in the case above, he's clearly looking for that audition as well.

 

[Kent Shrimper]

He is defo after a bit, However one of my oldest and dearest friends is a female and a good looking one at that and i have never ever thought of her like that, but thats because ive grown up with her probably.

 

[Swiss Tony]

The Test

Male friend walks around the house,with no crackers on,you tell him FFS he's making you gag.

Female friend walks around the house,with no knickers on,you get a boner.

Platonic relationships are impossible.

 

[Matt the Shrimp]

I have platonic female friends, but that's not to say I wouldn't have done the deed at some point if I'd had the chance - after all, each had a pulse. Actually, to be fair, one in particular was a bit of a looker...

However, given that I'm (a) lardy, and (b) none too confident with the birds, I never managed to do close the deal with any of them - although I'm happy to report that it was probably all for the best in the end. After all, they're still platonic friends - and, as it turns out, I was probably never meant to do the deed with them anyway, since I was meant to end up with the lady who is now Mrs. W.

:)

So yes, if this bloke is single, charming, not much of a looker and not very confident with women... then, yes, chances are he would not hesitate for a second if given the opportunity to jump into bed with your wife's mate.

;)

 

[Interpol Shrimper]

However, given that I'm (a) lardy, and (b) none too confident with the birds, I never managed to do close the deal with any of them - although I'm happy to report that it was probably all for the best in the end. After all, they're still platonic friends - and, as it turns out, I was probably never meant to do the deed with them anyway, since I was meant to end up with the lady who is now Mrs. W.

As I constantly get wound up about "being in touch with my feminine side" I am going to go out on a limb here and suggest that it's precisely that kind of mindset which would endear you to said female friends and allow action if you were that way inclined (which from the above you're obviously not). Again a prime example of men from Mars, women from Venus, blah blah blah.

 

[Matt the Shrimp]

As I constantly get wound up about "being in touch with my feminine side" I am going to go out on a limb here and suggest that it's precisely that kind of mindset which would endear you to said female friends and allow action if you were that way inclined (which from the above you're obviously not). Again a prime example of men from Mars, women from Venus, blah blah blah.

Possibly, although I always thought the absence of action was the result of them not fancying me.

:D

As for "men are from Mars" stuff, I prefer this:

PS I should also point out that not only am I now happily married, but so are the two female friends in question - and all to different people as well! ;)

 

[BrettieAngell]

There's only one thing on a bloke's mind when he first meets a bird, if not then there is something wrong!

 

[OldBlueLady]

Have plenty of male friends that I socialise with - lots on here....as far as I know it means nothing (well, apart from one person who shall remain nameless!!!).

 

[Smudger]

There's only one thing on a bloke's mind when he first meets a bird, if not then there is something wrong!

As you're a newly married man with a wife who uses this site, that took some balls.

Kudos!

 

[EastStandBlue]

Have plenty of male friends that I socialise with - lots on here....as far as I know it means nothing (well, apart from one person who shall remain nameless!!!).

Does it rhyme with Balance ShmarMorlack?

 

[OldBlueLady]

Does it rhyme with Balance ShmarMorlack?

No, it doesn't at all :p and you're looking at things from the wrong perspective anyway!

 

[EastStandBlue]

No, it doesn't at all :p and you're looking at things from the wrong perspective anyway!

Pre-Op Transvestite? Must be Ricey then...

 

[Sean 2]

No, it doesn't at all :p and you're looking at things from the wrong perspective anyway!

True Blue?