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Gender stereotyping kids

MK Shrimper

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Rather than pervert to JT thread, I thought I'd start a new one.

Talking to the missus last night we wondered if it's possible to get a child to follow a certain path in later years because of the colour of clothes you buy, or the toys they play with.

Was Jamie Oliver bought a toy kitchen as a kid? I'm sure there's plenty of women in the forces that wore pink and played with dolls as a baby. If you dress a boy in pink will it become gay? - of course not.

I think that it's irrelevant to a certain extent as they grow they find their own way to the things they like and the paths they follow.

I'd love to know if there's any actual research on this rather than interweb blogs.

Thoughts?
 

WightShrimper

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I believe there has been research into this (though I can't quote any sources) and they found that the sexes follow 'nature rather than nurture'. Little girls would seek out objects to mother while boys would manufacture weapons. Of course, if either sex already has the genetic blip to 'lean the other way' then nurture will make their role easier.
 

MK Shrimper

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I believe there has been research into this (though I can't quote any sources) and they found that the sexes follow 'nature rather than nurture'. Little girls would seek out objects to mother while boys would manufacture weapons. Of course, if either sex already has the genetic blip to 'lean the other way' then nurture will make their role easier.

But how does that relate to heterosexual women in the army?
 

WightShrimper

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I don't think anyone is saying that women can't be soldiers and men can't be child-minders, just that they are probably career choice moves rather than genetic traits. After all, not all blokes want to get into punch-ups every five minutes and not all women want kids, but those women can still want a nice home and a loving partner and the man feel like he wants to be the main provider.
 

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I have a son and a daughter.

My daughter never plays with toys, but loves arty/crafty stuff and does have mohshi monsters and cute teddies etc.

My son has never been interested in any of that and loves toy soldiers, cars and robots.

Ive never pushed anything on either on them but they naturally seemed to follow those stereotypical boy/girls stuff.

My brother in law has actually bought their son a pram and dolly to play with and I know of other toddler boys who have liked playing with prams etc.

I dont think you can pre-program children to be a certain way by getting them certain toys etc, my son just wont play with things he has no interest in. I personally used to love toy soldiers when I was a kid and would play with them for hours, but I never had any inclination to join up !

My son does like to play Battlfield online though, a game he is too young for which being a terrible parent I still let him play. If he turns out to be a Columbine type psychopath you can bring this post up as an interesting talking point....

I do think if you dress your son in dresses though that at some point he will be beaten up for it. Certainly by the 3rd year of senior school.
 

davewebbsbrain

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I have a boy aged 9 and a girl aged 5. They play cars together, dollies together and make camps and dens together. They are both polite, well rounded and caring. Kids are kids, let them play with what they want, experience all they can and they will choose their path in life accordingly.
 

OldBlueLady

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I have a boy aged 9 and a girl aged 5. They play cars together, dollies together and make camps and dens together. They are both polite, well rounded and caring. Kids are kids, let them play with what they want, experience all they can and they will choose their path in life accordingly.

Yep, well said. Never really took the colour type casting with my two, we bought most things in neutral or natural colours when young, and then they naturally took their own path in choosing toys as they got older. They both loved playing with all the Thomas the Tank Engine trains on the floor mat, and with Brio, farm sets, Lego, kitchens and shops, and even with Barbies, Kens and Action Men. They also loved painting and playing with Play-Doh! Kids are adaptable, they enjoy playing with another person, so if that person is happy to join in their games, the gender really doesn't matter.
 

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You know what I mean 2 male or female lovers bringing up a child

I saw a documentary years ago about two lesbians who brought up a boy and he turned out to be gay.

Based on that extensive research and data Ive therefore decided homosexuality can be caught from your parents :smile: Well I havent really but it did make me wonder whether he was conditioned by living in that kind of environment.

Really dont see the problem in same sex parents. Id rather a child had two loving gay parents than two bad hetrosexual parents, which there are plenty of.
 

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I was brought up in a house of drugs, porn and gardening.

I see nothing wrong in administering rohypnol, sexualising a lady's ear and then finally walloping her over the head so she remembers nothing.

I can't connect my childhood with the way I turned out though, no.
 

MK Shrimper

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I was brought up in a house of drugs, porn and gardening.

I see nothing wrong in administering rohypnol, sexualising a lady's ear and then finally walloping her over the head so she remembers nothing.

I can't connect my childhood with the way I turned out though, no.

Phil. Collins. :stunned:

Makes sense.
 
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