Can we provide a card for Simon Dobbins Wife

[THE SEVENTIES NORTH BANK]

Very sad news. I know Nicole Dobbin hated seeing the very mention of the word Southend anywhere. She suffered so much unfair verbal abuse outside Basildon court during the trial, which made things even worse, as their family life had already been totally ruined. She has understandably come out in anger and blasted Simon's attackers.
So this is extremely difficult to get the response right from Southend fans.

 

[fbm]

Very sad news. I know Nicole Dobbin hated seeing the very mention of the word Southend anywhere. She suffered so much unfair verbal abuse outside Basildon court during the trial, which made things even worse, as their family life had already been totally ruined. She has understandably come out in anger and blasted Simon's attackers.
So this is extremely difficult to get the response right from Southend fans.

Agreed.

I don't think there's any correct action any of us can take individually that will be in any way helpful. There is nothing we can do to make her feel any better, the clock can't be turned back and anything we do actually only serves to ease our own discomfort, simultaneously twisting the knife a touch for her and the family, albeit unintentionally.

I would also imagine that - when crowds are allowed back in - our fans may have to be careful at games up there.

Least said, soonest mended I think.

 

[Tangled up in Blue]

I have a good mate here in Barna who's a Cambridge United fan (I used to work with him and also sit next to him and his son at Espanyol games).I know he regularly reads Moosenet (their equivalent of SZ.).I'll email him and ask what their fans think we should do.

 

[Sentinel]

There is a certain irony in that the day he died Cambridge are top of the division and Southend are bottom.

 

[Member]

Agreed.

I don't think there's any correct action any of us can take individually that will be in any way helpful. There is nothing we can do to make her feel any better, the clock can't be turned back and anything we do actually only serves to ease our own discomfort, simultaneously twisting the knife a touch for her and the family, albeit unintentionally.

I would also imagine that - when crowds are allowed back in - our fans may have to be careful at games up there.

Least said, soonest mended I think.

Even if you aren’t sure how it will be received by his wife and family, it doesn’t stop a message or card from the Trust from being the right thing to do. Hopefully in the fullness of time she’ll be able to draw strength from the support and love shown by the football family, SUFC included.

 

[fbm]

Even if you aren’t sure how it will be received by his wife and family, it doesn’t stop a message or card from the Trust from being the right thing to do. Hopefully in the fullness of time she’ll be able to draw strength from the support and love shown by the football family, SUFC included.

No, fair enough from the Trust or Club. I did say individually though.

 

[rigsby]

I have a good mate here in Barna who's a Cambridge United fan (I used to work with him and also sit next to him and his son at Espanyol games).I know he regularly reads Moosenet (their equivalent of SZ.).I'll email him and ask what their fans think we should do.

It not what Cambridge fans think. The only people that matter are his family..

I remember when Essex Fire Brigade killed someone going through red lights at Thames Drive....Some buffoon thought it a good idea to send a couple of bods in uniform to show support at the funeral. I'm told the victim's sons chased them out of the church.

Like others have said, the trust should reach out first and see whether it would be welcome or not.

However, there is the real possibility that there may be another court case with 15/20 year sentences on the line. People who kept quiet may well not this time and things will get very ugly. There may be worse to come so be careful not to be seen as jumping on the grief band wagon.

 

[Tangled up in Blue]

1.It not what Cambridge fans think. The only people that matter are his family..

I remember when Essex Fire Brigade killed someone going through red lights at Thames Drive....Some buffoon thought it a good idea to send a couple of bods in uniform to show support at the funeral. I'm told the victim's sons chased them out of the church.

2.Like others have said, the trust should reach out first and see whether it would be welcome or not.

However, there is the real possibility that there may be another court case with 15/20 year sentences on the line. People who kept quiet may well not this time and things will get very ugly. There may be worse to come so be careful not to be seen as jumping on the grief band wagon.

1.Certainly they're the people who matter most but from what I've read I don't think his wife would be particularly receptive to any gesture on the part of SUFC fans.

2.Agreed.

FWIW, this is what my Cambridge supporting mate had to say:-"Yeah, it's a big story in the Cambridge area, though I haven't seen any suggestions about what Southend fans should do - I suppose some sort of commemoration at the next Southend Cambridge match."

 

[Westcliff DGS]

I think the sentiment is a nice one, however if I were the family I would want nothing from us and can understand the hatred towards the club from the family.

 

[rigsby]

1.Certainly they're the people who matter most but from what I've read I don't think his wife would be particularly receptive to any gesture on the part of SUFC fans.

2.Agreed.

FWIW, this is what my Cambridge supporting mate had to say:-"Yeah, it's a big story in the Cambridge area, though I haven't seen any suggestions about what Southend fans should do - I suppose some sort of commemoration at the next Southend Cambridge match."

That was my point.....Which is why I posted it

 

[Mad Cyril]

[Edit]

Regarding sending ‘deepest sympathies’ to from SUFC to Mrs Dobbin, it’s a hard one, as in my mind the people involved don’t represent me or the team I support.

[Edit]

RIP Simon

That pretty much sums it up for me.

 

[Shrimperstrust]

The Shrimpers Trust were deeply saddened to learn of the tragic passing of Cambridge United fan Simon Dobbin yesterday and send the sincerest of condolences on behalf of our members and other supporters to his family and friends at this most terrible time.

A further statement will be made shortly further to ongoing discussion between Southend United and ourselves. RIP Simon.

 

[Pak Power]

A piece on the funeral here, with some photo's

Simon Dobbin: Funeral of football fan who died after hooligan attack

Streets were lined with mourners for Simon Dobbin, left brain-damaged after a match in 2015.

www.bbc.co.uk

R;I;P Simon

 

[Barling Magna]

Thanks for sharing this PP. Such a vicious tragedy which besmirches the name of our club. RIP Simon.