Question Can you invite people to a stag but not your wedding?

[DTS]

Lads help.

I am starting to think about my stag do which will be sometime June/July next year. As some of you will know I have a good mate in Malaga who sometimes comes over to watch the Blues and I shall be paying him a visit with lots of my close friends (Plus Ldn Fasto).

My dilema is I have about 15 odd people for the stag which is good numbers. Now I have got a few extra mates that I would like to invite on my stag do but I just cant find room for them at the wedding due to numbers constraints.

Is it acceptable to invite someone your stag do but not to the wedding? I know the lads well enough to square it with them but I am not sure if it might seem like a snub.

Cheers
DtS

 

[Smiffy]

Ahem....

:whistling:

And yes mate, its fine. We are blokes for god sake, stop worrying.

 

[DoDTS]

Look Dave if you've got something to tell me just tell me, don't beat around the bush with a poll.

Dad of DtS

 

[The Big Shrimp]

Its your big day, you decide. If they think anything of you they would understand, if it was down to money or whatever restrictions. If they don't tough!

A mate had to do this a little while back & it wasn't a problem.

 

[DTS]

Problem is we have a marquee is the garden and capacity is 100 and were at 99.......Could see if dad can give it a miss I guess...

 

[canveyshrimper]

Problem is we have a marquee is the garden and capacity is 100 and were at 99.......Could see if dad can give it a miss I guess...

Dave, problem solved, if you use one of Fasto's hoodies instead of a marquee you'll get another 150 in mate.

 

[DoDTS]

Ideal solution

I could be a waiter on the day, (or a bouncer), I'd earn a couple of extra quid and I would be there but you wouldn't have to include me in the numbers. Of course we wouldn't be able to acknowlege each other but it would be extra pocket money for my next away game.

Dad of DtS

 

[The Big Shrimp]

Dave, problem solved, if you use one of Fasto's hoodies instead of a marquee you'll get another 150 in mate.

Did he shrink them in the wash?

:whistling:

 

[canveyshrimper]

Did he shrink them in the wash?

:whistling:

Nope just using his Extra Large, using XXL will get even more in.:)

 

[Uncle Leo]

Dave, if you've got a limit on wedding guests (we did - it was also 100) then you may well struggle to get all your mates along. I had 20-odd on my stage do and some of the lads had to miss out on the wedding day, simple as that.

I don't know what your family situation is, but we had so many 'must invites' as both Jennifer and I have quite big families. That meant some of the lads who are a good laugh but not really close mates could only be invited to the stag.

Have a great stag trip and an even better wedding day :clap:

 

[Aberdeen Shrimper]

Dave, if you've got a limit on wedding guests (we did - it was also 100) then you may well struggle to get all your mates along. I had 20-odd on my stage do and some of the lads had to miss out on the wedding day, simple as that.

I don't know what your family situation is, but we had so many 'must invites' as both Jennifer and I have quite big families. That meant some of the lads who are a good laugh but not really close mates could only be invited to the stag.

Have a great stag trip and an even better wedding day :clap:

Exactly what i was going to post, we have 2 large families between us and both of us had to miss a fair few folk off the guest list that were at the Stag and hen night respectively.

If i was at a mates Stag night but he could not fit me on the guest list for the actual wedding i would totaly understand.

 

[DoDTS]

Dave,

In all honesty what would most blokes rather do? go on a stag do or get dressed up, go to church and meet the relatives. It's not a problem.

The problem would be saying you can go the weding but you can't do the stag do.

 

[ian_the_girth]

more importantly, what strip club you going ?

 

[Vange Shrimper]

Yes it is acceptable if you cant get them to come to your wedding, but for them to go to your stag do. At my mate's wedding, he invited a couple of lads to the stag do but he didnt actually want them to go to the wedding. Obv he didnt tell them this, but it was all fine in the end - the groom got his wish, and they didnt go to wedding.

I've actually got to start thinking about my Hen do and who to invite, so cheers for reminding me about this!

 

[dashman]

Some might want 2 go on the Stag night & avoid the wkend etc, ask them, give reasoning etc - job done.

And good luck - Congratulations

 

[Hotman]

Almost essential to invite them I'd say - most weddings are restricted on numbers, and it's a way of keeping them involved. They'd be more ****** off if you didnt invite them to anything than if you did to stag do and explained

 

[Pubey]

personally i think they should get an invite, but if you are really limited by numbers then i suppose they're the easiest to miss off the list.

 

[Kent Shrimper]

i reckon we have just found our next SZBC!!!!

 

[Matt the Shrimp]

Only once been invited on a stag and not been invited to a wedding. To be honest, it felt a wee bit odd going on the stag... it was as if he felt that he didn't have enough bloke-ish mates who were going to his wedding to make a proper go of it for his stag, so I was along making up the numbers.

Curiously, though, I did end up going to the wedding as my mate's missus was ill, so I went in her place!

 

[ldnfatso]

did i ask for this abuse?