Stephen Gateley dies

[Bielzibubz]

If you, your partner, mum, dad, daughter, son......etc was to be killed tomorrow in a car accident, should any of us on this forum actually give a flying F**ck?

Answer is yes, its called compassion.

If i never had any knowledge of you what so ever then no I would not give a toss if you died, simply because i would have no knowledge of you. If someone who is in the public eye a lot and (has been for quite a few years) sadly dies before their time then you will get peole who didn't nesseceraly know him who will feel sad about it and will want him to rest in peace.

I fail to see how in this hate filled world that a little bit of public compassion can be such a terrible thing.

Don't talk to me about compassion. I cared for and slowly watched my fiancée die from MS two and a bit years ago. I wouldn't expect, nor want, you or anyone else to give a flying fu*k. And where the hell is a little bit of public compassion going to make a blind bit of difference except to make the person making it feel a little bit better about themselves.

Call me cold, heartless, a complete a$$hole, I don't care. Unless that person has had a direct effect on my life or I knew that person then I couldn't give a monkey's ar$e when or how they carcked it.

 

[Vange Shrimper]

I'm gutted to hear this news. I actually preferred Boyzone to Take That when I was growing up, and yes I have to admit it, I do still have Boyzone albums that I occasionally listen to nowadays (And Gary can back me up on that, he did buy me 2 of them for my birthday last year!)

Such a waste of a life, and at 33, far too young to die. RIP fella :(

 

[Aberdeen Shrimper]

Don't talk to me about compassion. I cared for and slowly watched my fiancée die from MS two and a bit years ago. I wouldn't expect, nor want, you or anyone else to give a flying fu*k. And where the hell is a little bit of public compassion going to make a blind bit of difference except to make the person making it feel a little bit better about themselves.

Call me cold, heartless, a complete a$$hole, I don't care. Unless that person has had a direct effect on my life or I knew that person then I couldn't give a monkey's ar$e when or how they carcked it.

And that is an opinion that you are completely entitled to without anyone questioning or criticizing it.

Like wise if people have a different opinion and want to show compassion then they also have the right to do so without someone belittling them.

 

[Bielzibubz]

AB, I wasn't trying to belittle anyone and I apologise if that's how it came across. I just fail to see or understand how anyone could be upset or sad about some ones death that they never knew. Maybe it's just me but when I heard the news all I thought was 'oh here we go again' with the over the top news stories and speculation and about four nanoseconds after that 'right, cuppa tea time'

 

[Aberdeen Shrimper]

AB, I wasn't trying to belittle anyone and I apologise if that's how it came across. I just fail to see or understand how anyone could be upset or sad about some ones death that they never knew. Maybe it's just me but when I heard the news all I thought was 'oh here we go again' with the over the top news stories and speculation and about four nanoseconds after that 'right, cuppa tea time'

I understand where you are coming from but don't necessarily agree with you mate.

As terrible as it sounds, the media will run this story for all it is worth because it commands good viewing figures and sells papers, I do not believe for one second that they have any interest in the family and how they feel.

I am not upset that he had died as I did not know him, but I do hope he rests in peace and do feel sorry for anyone’s family who lose someone young/old, suddenly or from a long term illness, I have experienced it as well and it is devastating.

 

[Vange Shrimper]

I'm not being rude guys, but someone's died and your having a f*cking argument?

Show some compassion please.....

 

[Bluesmanager]

I understand where you are coming from but don't necessarily agree with you mate.

As terrible as it sounds, the media will run this story for all it is worth because it commands good viewing figures and sells papers, I do not believe for one second that they have any interest in the family and how they feel.

I am not upset that he had died as I did not know him, but I do hope he rests in peace and do feel sorry for anyone’s family who lose someone young/old, suddenly or from a long term illness, I have experienced it as well and it is devastating.

He's right. Showing compassion and ither such things is detrimental to media-based products. Can't sell stories if you're not cutthroat.

I do agree with Vange though, time and a place guys. This is neither.

 

[Aberdeen Shrimper]

I'm not being rude guys, but someone's died and your having a f*cking argument?

Show some compassion please.....

Fair comment Hills

 

[Bielzibubz]

I'm not being rude guys, but someone's died and your having a f*cking argument?

Show some compassion please.....

Gladys Bartlett died last week in Southend General. Where's the thread for her?

Oh wait, she wasn't a celebrity, never mind.

 

[BrettieAngell]

People die every day.

Obviously its really sad for the guys family and friends all the fake outpouring of grief over a dead celebrity really gets my goat though.

 

[Aberdeen Shrimper]

I feel a domestic coming!!!!

 

[osymandus]

People die every day.

Obviously its really sad for the guys family and friends all the fake outpouring of grief over a dead celebrity really gets my goat though.

Actually as mentioned before some of us do read teh obits and in the Echo we read about the memorial messages and those who died locally so yes some people do give a damn about other people we dont know .

My Dad's current dying of a brain tumor so i have a little insight into what
Belizbubs going through , but it doesn't stop me for feeling for anyone who you hear about if they are have lost someone they love.

BUt this in no way is a rant to tell people to feel compassionate btw

 

[OldBlueLady]

Some of us are naturally more compassionate than others anyway, me, I've just been blubbing my eyes out over Stacey being sectioned in Eastenders - and that's not even real!

Like Osy, I read the obits if I have a local paper, same as I do the births. It's part of a cycle, and the sharing or acknowledging of emotion/grief is better than bottling it up. I don't think anyone has expressed "outpourings" here, just the acknowledgement of the sad loss of a young life of a person in the public eye.

As it goes, there was a huge groundswell of feeling earlier in the year over the death of young Eleanor McGrath - and even that caused some arguing.

 

[toellandback]

People lets not argue, after all its only words. No matter what people thought of him or his music thats no age to die at

RIP Stephen

 

[BrettieAngell]

Like Osy, I read the obits if I have a local paper, same as I do the births. It's part of a cycle, and the sharing or acknowledging of emotion/grief is better than bottling it up. I don't think anyone has expressed "outpourings" here, just the acknowledgement of the sad loss of a young life of a person in the public eye.

I didn't say anything about anyone on here, I just meant in general.

 

[Vange Shrimper]

Some of us are naturally more compassionate than others anyway, me, I've just been blubbing my eyes out over Stacey being sectioned in Eastenders - and that's not even real!

That's just sad!

 

[Aberdeen Shrimper]

That's just sad!

I have to agree I am afraid!!!

 

[Dave of the Match]

I have to agree I am afraid!!!

Thirded!! ....

 

[Bielzibubz]

Thirded!! ....

Don't know about sad but by God it made me :D

 

[OldBlueLady]

At least it stopped the flippin' arguing! :)