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Nov 27, 2007
Sunny Sarfend
Hi good people of SZ. Just after a bit of advice. I have a huge dilemma that will shape the rest of my life. I was with my partner for the best part of 20 years. About 5 years ago I found out that I had a daughter, who was 17 when I knew, and we had also discovered it was not possible for my ex and I to conceive naturally. Anyway we went down the IVF route about 3 years ago but she couldnt get on with the tablets she had to take and wanted to take a break from it. In the meantime my newly acquired daughter had given birth so I was now a grandad without having kids- WTF- try getting your head round that!! As you can imagine my ex wasnt exactly enthralled by this and last week things became too much and she left me as she cant get her head round the fact that I have a daughter and grandchild and we have none, I also turned 40 this week. However I did tell her many years ago that I wanted at least one child before we were 30, but she decided we couldnt do this as I had bad epilepsy. I had a brain op in Jan 2000 which appears to have cured that problem but we only found out that conceiving wasnt going to be easy in about 2009 as my ex had suffered,but got over, cancer.
I met with my ex today and basically have been told its her or my daughter and grandaughter what do I do???
Any advice would be appreciated its like Im damned if I do and damned if I dont. I would say my life is a better place with my ex in it but its also better with my daughter and granddaughter in it too. HELP!!!