Interpol Shrimper
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Just got a new friend request on Facebook.
I put it to the good people of ShrimperZone, do I add him or not?
Basically, the request is from a bloke I went to school with but lost touch at 16. Five or so years later, we bump into each other and go for a beer, he tells me how he's been engaged to some girl for a couple of years but how it's all about to go t1ts up. At that time, I've also had a long-term g/f and was about to propose seeing as I was just about to finish my studies. Me and this bloke get quite matey again (he even accompanied me to Roots Hall a few times).
Then about a year later, after my g/f accepts my proposal, the 3 of us arrange to go to France for a booze-cruise daytrip. Now, this is where it gets interesting, I said whatever you do, don't book it for Nov 27th (as I was going to a mate's birthday party) and lo & behold that's what he did. I wasn't that happy but being a trustworthy kind of a bloke, him & my g/f go off to France together for the day. I hear nothing from him after they get back and my fiancée goes all weird on me and this came to a head a couple of weeks later when she dumps me just before Christmas.
About a month later, I find out they're now an item and despite one final "goodbye" and another hare-brained scheme to win her back, it turns out that a year or so later they get married and have 2 (at least to my knowledge, some people have told me there's a third) kids. As with all relationship trauma you get over it, but I have to admit it took me years to feel OK with things and about 5 or 6 years after (just before I relocated to Glasgow) I was out with a group of friends for Sunday lunch and we bumped into their little family group. Having wondered "what if" for so long just seemed to evaporate in a split-second, as there was me (beautiful girl on arm), looking reasonably good and happy and popular compared to their regular "chatter" of family noise and bickering and the 2 of them looking almost grey with all the stress and apparent contempt for each other.
*edit* - I forgot to add this bloke was also supposed to be the best man at our wedding!!!
So, do I (8 years later) now add him on FB or tell him to **** off and crawl back under his stone? You decide! Poll will close Sunday.
I put it to the good people of ShrimperZone, do I add him or not?
Basically, the request is from a bloke I went to school with but lost touch at 16. Five or so years later, we bump into each other and go for a beer, he tells me how he's been engaged to some girl for a couple of years but how it's all about to go t1ts up. At that time, I've also had a long-term g/f and was about to propose seeing as I was just about to finish my studies. Me and this bloke get quite matey again (he even accompanied me to Roots Hall a few times).
Then about a year later, after my g/f accepts my proposal, the 3 of us arrange to go to France for a booze-cruise daytrip. Now, this is where it gets interesting, I said whatever you do, don't book it for Nov 27th (as I was going to a mate's birthday party) and lo & behold that's what he did. I wasn't that happy but being a trustworthy kind of a bloke, him & my g/f go off to France together for the day. I hear nothing from him after they get back and my fiancée goes all weird on me and this came to a head a couple of weeks later when she dumps me just before Christmas.
About a month later, I find out they're now an item and despite one final "goodbye" and another hare-brained scheme to win her back, it turns out that a year or so later they get married and have 2 (at least to my knowledge, some people have told me there's a third) kids. As with all relationship trauma you get over it, but I have to admit it took me years to feel OK with things and about 5 or 6 years after (just before I relocated to Glasgow) I was out with a group of friends for Sunday lunch and we bumped into their little family group. Having wondered "what if" for so long just seemed to evaporate in a split-second, as there was me (beautiful girl on arm), looking reasonably good and happy and popular compared to their regular "chatter" of family noise and bickering and the 2 of them looking almost grey with all the stress and apparent contempt for each other.
*edit* - I forgot to add this bloke was also supposed to be the best man at our wedding!!!
So, do I (8 years later) now add him on FB or tell him to **** off and crawl back under his stone? You decide! Poll will close Sunday.
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